So far, I have one major problem with being pregnant:
People will tell you the BIGGEST loads of utter bull feces about what will hurt your baby, and act like they are God rolled up with Mr. Spock and a developmental specialist if you counter them.
Moderation is very important--of course (taking too much vitamin E is a huge risk that folks don't often think about, for example!)--but here are some things I've personally run into:
"TONIC WATER IS DANGEROUS!!!!" -- er, no, no evidence of this... there was a German study that found that women who drank over a *liter* daily had infants with withdrawal shakes, though.
"It has alcohol in it! You can't have that!"
Dude, it's rum cake. The sauce had rum in it, once upon a time, yes...but there's this thing called "evaporation"? Which alcohol does at very low temperatures, let alone when added to boiling sauce? A slice will not hurt you.
For that matter, having a glass of wine with dinner on occasions isn't going to hurt the kid, either. (I feel deeply sorry for a woman who posted that she was 9 1/2 months pregnant {yes, it's possible, and uncomfortable} and she'd had half a glass of beer, and was now worried-- the sheer level of moronic, self-righteous, fact-free attacks she was subjected too--!!!)
Me, I'm not having anything but maybe a sip of wine from my sister's glass or similar. Having a glass of wine normally gives me a bit of heart burn-- I don't want to imagine how it'd come up now!
"Don't eat chocolate! The caffeine will hurt the baby!"
- the most protective doctor I can find still says that two caffeinated drinks a day is perfectly safe.
Now, let me quote Wise Geek:
The caffeine in chocolate varies according to the type of chocolate one chooses. Caffeine in chocolate that is unsweetened or is semi-sweet usually contains about five to 10 milligrams of caffeine per ounce of chocolate. Caffeine in chocolate with milk added is usually measured at five milligrams or less per ounce. Generally, caffeine in chocolate is present in higher amounts, as the chocolate gets darker.
Usually, the highest caffeine measurement for an ounce of chocolate is 10 milligrams. One can compare this to coffee to see that this is a relatively minuscule amount. The average cup of coffee contains about ten to fifteen times the amount of caffeine in one ounce of chocolate. Usually coffee contains between 100-150 milligrams of caffeine in an eight-ounce cup. This may vary slightly according to brand and roast style.
As to why coffee is "bad" during pregnancy, there are some studies that linked 8 or more cups a day (that's a full pot of normal coffee) to low birth weights, slightly higher miscarriage rates and to baby not sleeping very well during the first two weeks.
Also, there's some studies that link another chemical in coffee to lower circulation, which most pregnant women are already fighting. *grin*
"Drink chamomile! Don't drink chamomile! Drink rose hip tea! Don't drink rose hip tea! If you eat a stick of licorice, you'll miscarry!" and all other herbal-related advice.
Use some common sense, here; the biggest danger is that it's really hard to figure out what moderation is!
Are you self-medicating with over the counter herbal supplements? Oils to the skin? Taking most anything theraputically? (my mother drinking vinegar comes to mind-- don't knock it, it seems to have worked) Talk to your doctor. Natural doesn't mean safe-- as I've known since my mom had to deal with cows who got into Deadly Lupin or ate pine needles. That causes cyclopean calves and early-third-trimester miscarriages, respectively.
Herbal teas can be kind of dangerous, because of the vast range of concentrations that you're going to end up with, even if you start with two identical, commercially normal tea bags. A cup of tea as most restaurants make it-- looking like watery coffee-- is a far, far cry from the way my grandmother use to make it-- black as night. Drinking three pots of pitch-black herbal tea probably isn't that good for someone who isn't pregnant, let alone someone who is.....
Chamomile soothes upset stomachs, so that's good; chamomile also can be used to help induce labor, so that's dangerous.
Used as filler in a lot of teas.
Rose hip and/or Raspberry tea has high levels of vitamin C, so that's good; it can also induce labor, so that's a "watch it."
These will show up in most any health-oriented tea, as well as a "sweetener".
Licorice tastes great, and so is in a lot of teas, just like rosehip and raspberry. It can also help induce labor, so careful.
Common flavoring.
Lemongrass tastes great, and is used often for flavoring in teas. Three guesses what it can induce, and the first two don't count.... Other herbs listed here.
Cinnamon: generally found in spicy or "warm" type teas. For a change, this in medical-size doses DOESN'T induce labor-- it can screw with your blood sugar level, though, so probably a good idea to leave off on rubbing cinnamon oil on wrists, or taking cinnamon pills.
Garlic pills-- acts as a blood thinner. Nuff said. Garlic as a spice is totally alright, and can help with stuffy noses and such.
Basically: eating herbs and stuff you get at the store is going to be alright. Self-medicating, or drinking teas, can be dangerous. Come on, would you start taking medication when you're pregnant? So why would herb-based medication be any different?
Given my family history of miscarriages, I've been drinking mint tea, less than once a week and won't be even touching the various "pregnancy teas" until much later on. Paranoid, yes, and I even know I'm being silly, but it makes me feel more in control.
For the love of all that's Holy, don't do any shocks to your body if you can avoid it: if you've been running for an hour a day before you found out you're pregant, don't suddenly stop! If you didn't exercise, build up slowly-- walk for that half hour a day that the doctors suggest, and walk faster as you feel you can handle it. Listen to your body.
I kind of like my mom's advice: act like you just gave blood. Make sure you get lots of fluids and iron-rich foods, don't over-do it, but don't freak out. When you feel yourself wearing down, even if you think it's WAY too quickly, step aside and set down, drink some water and eat an apple. (this also reminds me of how granny dealt with her diabetes, amusingly enough)
When someone freaks out about something you're doing, unless you've researched it, ask them where they got the information. If you've researched it, and it's BS, explain as cheerfully as possible that it's BS.

